
I was the last to arrive at the training session, when I did I was greeted by six happy, relaxed but professional, but not stuffy, tea sipping faces. Nice. A quick round of intros, for my benefit, revealed a university career guidance tutor, three professional coaches and an ex-lecturer, (soon to be trainee teacher). Needless to say I felt welcome and at ease despite my I-Phone related tardiness.
The ease-putting continued as Erica initiated a story telling warm up game whereby we each were charged with producing coherent nuggets of narrative, coherent with the previous persons nugget that is. Our story was immediately about a dragon that played chess. My turn came second and I spoke of the dragon’s trip to the world chess championship in Beijing, and his intimidation of all the more learned and older dragons when he arrived.
It was only after about five minutes that the poignancy of my addition occurred to me that what I had said referred directly to my own current and wider professional situation, blinkered or what?! There I was sitting in a room with a group of professional and learned elders talking about a scared little dragon playing chess. I suddenly felt a bit exposed and violated by my own brain and mouth. But I realised in a quick fire game trying to temper your response would end up sounding contrived. This was not just a game (or are all games like this?) so from then on I became hyper-attentive and interested in the rest of the exercise.
I observed what people were bringing up. New media became a hot topic perhaps mirroring both the current obsession with and most people’s horror and revulsion towards it. So after the dragon and tweeted, played chess and written a blog he came up against some more challenges such as loneliness and writers block and these were solved through the creation of a support network for dragons and other creative reptiles.
And then he fell in love – and although I may not buy the happy ending per-say, what I do believe is the power of coming together to support each other as a group, or a network or even a couple.
This feeling of being united, which was evidently also valued by the other players and made explicit through the story of the dragon, who was named Bertie by the way, stuck with us throughout the session.
The day continued and the attendees explained and the group examined how the tools they had been given by Erica in the previous two sessions had facilitated their group work over the past month. Some had not previously done group work, but had felt that the tools gave them the structure and confidence to do so. What really shone through was the use and even necessity of the feedback session.
Despite my not being a coach it became apparent that when you take responsibility for a group you need someone to fall back on yourself, for reassurance and guidance. All the members of the group had issues and it was obvious that talking them through with Erica and having the support network of the group was exactly what a coach of any level needs access to.
Thank you to this blog for the picture


